This is a follow-up on yesterday’s post.  I was doing some research on Caregivers and I came across this article.  I thought I was just depressed, come to find out I’m just getting burnt out.  It is a real condition.

To tell you the truth, I do feel little guilty looking this up, reason being I do not want Lauren thinking I blame her for these emotions I feel.

When I just typed that last line, I realized I was thinking of her, when I need to think of myself now and then.  I know I have taken the first step to identify, now it is time to recognize, then to take steps get a healthier outlook.

Please take the time to read this article even if you are not a Caregiver.  You may know someone who is a Caregiver or possibly just taking care of your own family can be overwhelming at times.
What Causes Caregiver Burnout?

• Caregiver burnout is a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion that may be accompanied by a change in attitude — from positive and caring to negative and unconcerned. Burnout can occur when caregivers don’t get the help they need, or if they try to do more than they are able — either physically or financially. Caregivers who are “burned out” may experience fatigue, stress, anxiety, and depression. Many caregivers also feel guilty if they spend time on themselves rather than on their ill or elderly loved ones.
• What Are the Symptoms of Caregiver Burnout?
  The symptoms of caregiver burnout are similar to the symptoms of stress and depression. They include:
• Withdrawal from friends and family
  Loss of interest in activities previously enjoyed
  Feeling blue, irritable, hopeless, and helpless
  Changes in appetite, weight, or both
  Changes in sleep patterns
  Getting sick more often
  Feelings of wanting to hurt yourself or the person for whom you are caring
  Emotional and physical exhaustion
  Excessive use of alcohol and/or sleep medications
  Irritability
• Are You Heading for Caregiver Burnout?

By Paula Spencer Scott, Caring.com contributing editor
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Caregiving can bring many positives into your life — but it’s also hard work, physically and emotionally. If you don’t take enough self-care to replenish yourself, then caregiver stress, anxiety, and depression can build.

And that puts you on the path for caregiver burnout, a syndrome of mental, emotional, and physical depletion. “Caregiving requires a certain amount of selflessness, but it’s important for caregivers to know their limits,” says Caring.com senior medical editor Ken Robbins, a geriatric psychiatrist at the University of Wisconsin who’s also board certified in internal medicine. “Caregivers can become so focused on the person they’re assisting that they neglect their own needs.”

Caregiver burnout interferes with your ability to function. Burnout also raises your risk of chronic depression and other mental and physical ailments, from hypertension and flu to diabetes, stroke, or even premature death. Caregiver burnout is also a leading cause of nursing home placement, when run-down caregivers become too depleted to manage caregiving demands.

“It’s important for caregivers to be aware of this phenomenon and to find ways to either prevent or minimize it when they realize it’s happening,” Robbins says.

What’s your caregiver burnout index? Answer the following 12 questions, add up your score (A = 4 points, B = 3 points, C = 2 points, D = 1 point), and learn lifesaving strategies for managing the unique stress of caregiving.

• 1. How often do you get a good night’s sleep (seven or more hours)?

a. Every day

b. Often

c. Sometimes

d. Seldom or never

• 2. How often do you keep up with leisure activities that you enjoyed before caregiving?

Every day

Often

Sometimes

Seldom or never

• 3. How often do you feel irritable or lose your temper with others?

Seldom or never

Sometimes

Often

Every day

• 4. How often do you feel happy?

Every day

Often

Sometimes

Seldom or never

• 5. How often do you find it difficult to concentrate?

Seldom or never

Sometimes

Often

Every day

• 6. How often do you need a cigarette(s) or more than two cups of coffee to make it through the day?

Seldom or never

Sometimes

Often

Every day

• 7. How often do you lack the energy to cook, clean, and take care of everyday basics?

Seldom or never

Sometimes

Often

Every day

• 8. How often do you feel hopeless about the future?

Seldom or never

Sometimes

Often

Every day

• 9. How often are you able to relax without the use of alcohol or prescription sedatives?

Every day

Often

Sometimes

Seldom or never

• 10. How often do you feel overwhelmed by all you have to do?

Seldom or never

Sometimes

Often

Every day

• 11. How often has someone criticized your caregiving or suggested you’re burning out?

Seldom or never

Sometimes

Often

Every day

• 12. How often do you feel that someone is looking after or caring for you?

Every day

Often

Sometimes

Seldom or never

How did you score?

This self-test isn’t a scientific or diagnostic measure; it’s meant to help you identify whether your stress level warrants taking steps toward better protecting yourself.

Add up your score. Each A = 4 points, B = 3 points, C = 2 points, D = 1 point.

• 48-42: Keeping your cool (low burnout risk)

Your heart and head are both in the right place, and your stress-busting reservoirs are full, which helps you to give with grace and good humor. That said, caregiver stress often creeps up without a caregiver realizing it. Protecting your healthful habits is paramount.

What to do: Keep yourself well fueled for caring by making time for yourself every day — at minimum, aim for several five-minute pick-me-ups for caregiver stress. If you’re in a relationship, know that a healthy marriage or other close relationship can be a source of strength; learn how caregiving couples can make it work.

• 30-41: Feverish (elevated burnout risk)

You’re likely managing caregiver stress reasonably well but falling into a common caregiver trap: Letting yourself sink lower on the daily priority list than is healthy for you. Everyone has an occasional crazy-busy day, but too many of them results in chronic stress — which erodes well-being and places you at risk for depression, colds, and other illnesses.

What to do: Protect your time for self-care by learning seven ways to find more “me” time. On days when you’re feeling stressed, try these five ten-minute pick-me-ups.

• 18-29: Too hot to handle (high burnout risk)

Your stress level is probably sky-high. You may already be experiencing symptoms of anxiety, depression, compromised immunity, and physical exhaustion that can lead to or complicate chronic diseases such as hypertension, diabetes, heart disease, and chronic depression. It’s critical that you take steps immediately to lower your stress level, ideally through a combination of better self-care, a shared workload, and outlets for your complicated emotions, including talk therapy and support groups.

What to do: In addition to the suggestions in the sections above, learn the five real reasons you’re stressed and how to tame them. Look into respite care options — they’re an important way to give yourself the break you need.

• 12-17: Toast (already burned out)

It’s a wonder — and a blessing — that you were able to find and take this quiz. You’re running on empty, or is it more like barely running? Although you want to do your best for the person you’re caring for, realize that your own health is at stake — and if you don’t look out for Number One, you won’t be able to help the person or persons in your care.

What to do: You need immediate help. Learn how to tell the difference between the normal stress of caregiving and depression and consult with someone you trust — a doctor, clergyperson, counselor, or therapist, for counseling — and seek out medical assistance. At minimum, you need a physical checkup. You may also benefit from other therapies or from a break from caregiving that’s as short-term as a vacation or as permanent as a relocation of the person in your care.

Well, I took the test.  It opened my eyes to help recognize I need to take steps to learn to take time for myself.

I would like to take the opportunity to thank my family and friends for being patient and understanding during the last couple of months.

lynne